The story how Phil and I first met starts with the journey of how we each ended up at a crossroads in our lives. I moved from Columbia SC to Pittsburgh PA in May of 2014 to start my life all over again and to look for something I was desperately missing.
I was good friends with the kind owners of Barneys Bar and Grill and they were generous enough to give me a job serving tables and slinging drinks until I found myself a big girl job. At that time in Phil’s life he was at a transitional point in his career and deep inside he knew something was missing.
In May of 2014 I was working at Barneys pretty much every day and that is where I met Phil. Through mutual connections we were introduced but I would be lying, if I said that was the first time we noticed each other. Phil remembers the very first time that he saw me (which was even before I moved back to Pittsburgh. He had his eye on me even when I would come to visit my PA friends with no knowledge that I would ever move home.
When he found out I was back in town he just knew “I need to meet this girl”. One night after my shift, I stayed to have a drink and unwind. Phil sat down on the bar stool next to me and before my drink became empty the bartender grabbed her chalk and added a line in front of me and said “The next one’s on Phil”.
We got to talking and we talked until the sun came up. I was so impressed by all Phil had accomplished and I loved the way he lit up when he talked about his family. Phil was blinded by my smile and blown away by my passion, my drive and how much I just loved life. Phil’s plan to scoring the first date was pretty smart if you ask me. In conversations we talked about how I had never been to a pirate game, never rode the incline, never saw fireworks from Mt. Washington and the list goes on.
I was obviously from Pittsburgh but I never had a chance to experience the true Pittsburgh life style. SO Phil stepped up to the plate and finally asked me out. Our first date was on the 4th of July. He took me up to Mt. Washington to a place called Shiloh Grill. He was SO nervous he even ran a red light on the way there. To this day I still will never let him live that one down.
To ease his nerves I made something called a “cutie catcher” out of a bar napkin. It’s a little origami thing that you fold into special squares, label it with numbers and fill it with questions. I did a step by step presentation on how to make one in the 4th grade – who would have thought then that this piece of art I learned to make in 4th grade would set the stage to change my entire life. After dinner we walked hand and hand down the cobblestone street to the over look to watch the fireworks. Needless to say that the fireworks in the sky that night didn’t shine near as bright that the ones in my heart.
I was hooked from the very first date and Phil felt the same. I remember thinking to myself that this was why God sent me home to Pittsburgh..... to meet this man, who walked into my life... my soul was forever changed....!!
The story of Phil and I is best explained as a place in time that we both were in at a certain point in our lives. We were both just standing in the crossroads – that truly is where we met. I could have gone north and he could have gone south but somehow what he was missing was me and what I was looking for was him. So instead of taking different roads we held on to each other and started our journey together, through this crazy thing we call life.